When Your Kids Push Your Buttons
And What You Can Do About It
A certain look, a defiant act, your child “pushes your buttons”, and you say things you swore you never would. Blame, regret, shame—does this “spinning out of control” action/reaction cycle sound familiar? Effective parenting is achieved when we connect with our children, understand what their behavior is trying to tell us, and end the parenting “road rage” to give our children the help they may really be asking for. When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It (Warner books, 2003), voted one of the top 10 parenting books by the New York Post, will help you discover what your buttons are, where they come from, why your children push them and how to defuse them so you can regain your authority, your sanity, and your children’s cooperation and respect. Read more »
Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With
Imagine suddenly looking at behavior differently. When parents learn to replace rewards and punishment with problem solving, fairness, and logic, something amazing happens. Parenting gets easier and children become cooperative and respectful. In Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (AdamsMedia, 2008), Bonnie Harris has distilled her groundbreaking work on understanding child behavior into eight key principles together with practical strategies parents can use to navigate through everyday challenges. What’s different here is a fundamental shift in how Bonnie approaches parenting. She emphasizes the parent’s role in self-discipline—staying calm and looking at the child’s behavior as a signal to a deeper meaning rather than a conviction. Misbehavior is the child’s only way to tell parents she is having a problem, not being a problem. Once parents learn how to decode this behavioral language, the rest is a joy. Read more »